I have been doing a lot of thinking about the people in my life. I am extremely lucky to have so many people who have loved and supported me in different stages in my life.
Lately, I have been struggling with the loss of a good friendship. As this friendship moved away in miles, the closeness did as well. I didn’t expect that to happen. I thought we would be able to keep it going strong. The distance wouldn’t change anything. Maybe I was being naive.
I believe that things happen for a reason and the universe steps in and gives you what you need when you need it. Slowly, I am coming to the realization that the universe put this friendship into our life for a reason. This friendship came into our life when our family was struggling through an extremely difficult time. These friends were there for us when no one else was. We were able to open up and share what was going on with them, even before we shared with our family. No matter what was happening, it was a judgement free zone around them. They listened, let us cry, and offered advice, food, drink, whatever we needed it. It was unconditional support. It was the one place were we could go for a break (and did I mention…drinks). With them, we weren’t worried about what might happen next. It was a place where we could always relax.
So the universe put them in our lives because we needed them during this tumultuous time. Life has since calmed down and we have gone our separate ways. Connected by the memories on Facebook and an occasional text. And it’s ok. I love this quote by Washington Irving:
“Sweet is the memory of distant friends!
Like the mellow rays of the departing sun,
it falls tenderly, yet sadly on the heart.“